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Mother’s Day and other Hallmark Holidays

I will celebrate anything, really I will.

I like Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Father’s Day, Secretary’s day (and no I am not a secretary), national donut day, etc.

Short explanation is that I like to receive gifts and I like to be acknowledged. We all do to a certain extent, some more than others.

I appreciate holidays, hallmark or not, because it is a day set aside to plan for, celebrate and enjoy; if you want. I love to give gifts as well as to receive them so shut your judgmental trap. The whole process gets me excited. The planning, shopping, packaging and watching the expression. I love it all.

I refer to myself as competitive gift shopper.

Now, while I can appreciate the two biggest arguments against said hallmark holidays, I can also provide a pretty good rebuttal.

Argument 1: shouldn’t we celebrate these people everyday? I don’t need a date on the calendar to celebrate so and so.

Really? And how is that working for you? Do you really buy ridiculously large stuffed animals and heart shaped chocolates all year round? Oh and you also treat your spouse to a whole day of being nice, gifts and a real effort in bed all year long. The fuck you do.

Argument 2: these holidays are just another way for consumers to be exploited. Whatever, you would normally use that money for online porn, shitty food that is killing your body, too much beer or something else insignificant. But of course beer and fast food commercials ARE NOT EXPLOITIVE at all. And besides, I have never met a decent woman who didn’t at least put out for just a little bit of effort.

I will always revel in the opportunity to celebrate my family and friends, even if the damn holiday was made up.

By the way, check out the 5 Love Languages. It might change your opinion on what it means to celebrate these holidays. Some of us (me) receive and give love this way. It’s a thing!

 

 

On the 5th Anniversary of your last day of freedom

When we met, we were as single as two people could possibly be. Both of us were established adults with careers and houses. I guess that is pretty common in today’s generation of dating, but the point here is that I think we have done a pretty amazing job at becoming a team.

In 5 short years we moved from Italy to Summerville, quickly bought a house, started our family, sold that house and built the house we are in now. Castle Garvey. There are many big life changes that are missing on this list that we have survived together like losing my mom, losing a baby, jobs, health issues… only to make us stronger as a team. You are really been my best friend.

I couldn’t imagine doing any of those things without you. In fact, I wouldn’t have. I would still be wearing boots somewhere, white-knuckling it along in life. Drinking lots of wine to cope.

Instead, I am in THIS life with you. Thank you for never leaving my side; even when I told you to. You saw through the facade, helped heal my wounds and taught me I could let someone else take the wheel.

You inspire me everyday. When you set your mind to something, it will be done. If you are enjoying the process, it is amazing what you can accomplish. As a father, well, I have never met another dad like you. You are something to be treasured.

I treasure you today, tomorrow and the next day.

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I can’t account for Sunday. I work. 😉

I love you my mister Garvey, happy 5th Anniversary. I look forward the rest of our lives together.