You know, dads today continue to get a bad rap. We have evolved from dissing dads whose duties started and ended with earning a paycheck to dads who now opt to stay home and handle the day-to-day parenting duties while moms venture out to earn that paycheck. And depending on where you live in the United States, some dads are actually teased for being so ‘domestic’. I mean what the what?!
I saw it first-hand when I was pregnant. I was in my last months and too large to put on my own shoes with any real dignity and grace, so my beloved helped me out. Also helped me squeeze my large thighs into my preggy leggings and lifted me out of my daily soaks in the tub. And he was teased; you know who you are.
In the hospital after my c-section, he changed every single diaper for the first 48 hours. Even though he had never changed one before in his life, he didn’t even think for a second to call the nurses to help him out. Probably because I was beside myself since I couldn’t do anything and he wanted to make sure I knew our little princess was being handled properly and with love. The nurses commented daily about his daddy skills and how in awe they were that he did it all. We thought since I was unable to tend to our daughter that of course daddy had to do it, but apparently in the South sometimes that isn’t how it is done (they explained with smiles).
That is just the kind of man he is.
And my husband isn’t the only badass dad out there. My friends are married to some great dads too. I see them all over the internet as well. Dads are doing it, y’all. So let’s stop focusing on the deadbeat dads and put some light on those kick-ass, doing it just like mom kind of dads. Let’s make that the new normal.
I will start us off. Here are a few more examples of how my husband fathers like a boss:
The way he would tote her around in the Baby Bjorn and not even give a second thought to it. He likes to take her everywhere with him and show her off. Such a proud papa.
The joy on his face at the first ultrasound appointment where we first heard baby Garvey.
The way he got dressed for the c-section before anyone told him to because he was not about to miss a thing!
The way he drives when she is the car.
The way he rocked Charlotte to sleep every night for months so that I could get a few hours of good sleep. Even if it took hours.
When something is wrong, he is the first one to look something up. Which can be annoying, but it comes from a very good place.
The way he lights up when she says ‘dada’ or runs in for a hug and the way he likes to check on her throughout the day
The fact that he went to every single appointment the first year of her life. A luxury most dads don’t get, but it was his enthusiasm and desire to be involved in everything that I appreciate.
The way he talks about her non-stop to anyone who will listen. The conversation seems to always circle back to his biggest joy.
Most importantly, because of the memories he in making with his daughter that she will have forever. I want to help in that so for a bonus gift I captured these every day moments between the two of them.
And from me- well we know all the things you have done for me and how well you take care of me. I am so lucky to have such an amazing man in my life. You have always been fully engaged in parenting and support me in way you can. Anyone who knows us knows this to be true.
Happy Father’s Day to you babe. You darling, are an example of a fantastic father.